JAVYPRO
Body Damage is Cool
Reged: 02/04/01
Posts: 1832
Loc: Buford, GA USA
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4x4wire extended family,
It is with great sorrow that I share with you that my Mom has passed away. I just got back home from the funeral in Puerto Rico.
She had been sick for little time. About six years ago she fractured an ankle and had a titanium rod implanted in that ankle. A delicate situation, given that she was diabetic.
At the beginnings of November 2011, she developed a bone infection in that ankle and another surgery was performed to have the titanium piece replaced with a more technologically advance piece. Surgery went perfect but due to the position on the bed she began accumulating fluid in her body, 41lbs total. A condition that caused severe stress to her lungs and heart. I flew to see her at the hospital last December and she could barely breath. Still, when asked she will say “I am Ok", that's how strong she was, even when her lung capacity was at 70%. He heart was so stressed out that her cardiologist said that her heart enzymes were at over 1,000. At 450 a normal human being would off have suffered a massive heart attack but not my mom, she was superhuman.
In 5 days that I spent with her on December and after 3 sessions of dialysis she improved greatly, so good was her recovery that she called me on my cell on Dec 20th when I was on my way to the airport to come back home in Atlanta, to tell me that she loved me. I was the happiest man alive that day.
It was January 9th and she was going through therapy sessions, but the same day that she was about to be released from the hospital, disaster stroke; she suffered a massive heart attack. So severe that the specialists spent 20 minutes trying to bring her back to life, and they did but the lack of oxygen had taken its toll.
From that point on she was not responsive, she will open her eyes and will cry at times as if she was listening and trying to say something but they were nothing but involuntary movements. Still, those little reactions were enough to fill our hearts with hope, our knees were sore of all the praying but we were still there, faith was our motor.
She was released from the hospital to be at home with her new companion, a respirator and a feeding tube. Days went by and she reached a delicate point on May 12th. Her condition had gotten delicate and she was brought back to the hospital where she passed away on May 15th at 8:30am while sleeping, holding my twin brothers hand. My brother, been a doctor, had become her always vigilant guardian angel but her life fade away slowly while he was with her holding her hand. She went away peacefully in her sleep to become his guardian angel, our guardian angel.
To my twin brother, Dr. Rolando A. Flores Rivera, I will always be proud of him for been such a wonderful and carring human being. To my younger brother Hugo L. Flores Rivera, I will always be grateful for everything that he did for her. To my dad, Rolando Flores Almodovar, He has always been her companion for 45 years, thanks for loving her so much and for so long.
It hurts me that I have been so far and couldn't be with her but she knows that I loved her and that I was there in spirit. Now she is with me in spirit at all times.
She was a wonderful woman, my hero, my role model, my teacher, the one that loved me unconditionally, the one with open arms, the one with soft and warm kisses those that I can still feel on my forehead or on my cheeks, the one that told me every day that she loved me and I loved her back, the one that cured my knees and elbows, the one that I never saw crying because she was made out of such a strong material but that at the same time had the most loving and warmest heart, the one that taught her three sons that discipline is one of the strongest foundations, the one that taught us that it is OK to cry and Ok to say "I am sorry", the one that taught us that we must respect women above all because that is the reason why God made them out off of one of our ribs so we can keep them next to our heart, the one with the most beautiful smile, the one with the most contagious laugh, the one always impeccably dressed no matter if she was going to the supermarket, the one with the most beautiful hands, the one that was always dancing, the one that tucked us in to sleep every single night, the one with the perfect lullaby that one still stuck in my head, the one from which I inherited my strong sole, the one from which I inherited my killer good looks =)...
The One I Will Forever Love.
I love you Manuela Rivera.
Your son Rolando J. Flores Rivera (Javy)
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stony-man
Web Wheeler
Reged: 11/06/02
Posts: 7862
Loc: Ohio - Northeast/Centralish
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My condolences. I'm glad you shared. It sounded to me you were blessed to have a wonderful mother, and she a wonderful son and family.
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KF6ZPL
Recreation Advocate
Reged: 02/15/00
Posts: 3945
Loc: Lakeside, CA
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Javy:
My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Believe me, I understand the angst and heartache of seeing a parent in a position where you are powerless to help. BTDT. And, the battle is still not over. Within the week my dad is expected to be home after a 6 week batte from intensive care to home and back to emergency and finally an operation that will extend his life. 6 months? A year? Don 't know as his heart has suffered significant damage.
I am sure there are others in the 4x4wire extended family that can share similar stories about the loss of loved ones and the angst of dealing with aging parents where the outcome is inevitable but you still struggle with accepting the outcome.
Your mom sounds like a wise and caring person. You should cherish that memory and hold it dear. Moms are special.
Thanks for sharing.
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off-roader
Mitsubishi Forum Moderator
Reged: 01/16/00
Posts: 15496
Loc: Bay Area, CA
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Javy my sincerest condolences and prayers go out to you and your family.
I know it sounds cliche but i must say that I have the greatest faith she is in a better place and no longer suffering which I know will bring some comfort to you and your family.
Having lost my father not too long ago, your post definitely brought tears to my eyes and renewed that hollow feeling for me that I know you must now have in your heart. It just reminds me of how important family is.
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fasteddy
Web Wheeler
Reged: 01/30/01
Posts: 12703
Loc: Flat Creek, GA
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Oh, my brother, I grieve with you...
Our roots wither away one by one. I have one blood relation left of my mother's generation and before, an uncle only 16 years older than I am. I've lost two of my cousins of my generation already, out of six.
Treasure your memories, and pass them to your children. Your Mama is proud of you, with good reason...
Eddy
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"If you can't be a good influence, don't worry, you can still be a horrid example."
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dadrab
Body Damage is Cool
Reged: 01/26/04
Posts: 2389
Loc: Augusta, Ga.
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Javvy,
I'm very sorry, sir.
They say the greatest sorrow is when a parent loses a child. I contend the converse to be true as well.
People, friends come and go, but you'll never have another mama.
She rests.
Ed
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87 Montero, bought new, by me -
88/89 intercooled Starion Turbo engine-
with awesome audio.
89 LWB Montero LS -
Rebuilt engine,
Tunes added.
Oscar Wilde: "Experience is the name so many people give to their mistakes."
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chpfx
Getting the Wheeling Fever
Reged: 09/16/09
Posts: 36
Loc: Va
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My condolences Javy, I also have felt the saddness of losing my dearest mother. Thank you for sharing. If you permit me sir, have comfort in knowing and deeply believe our love ones will now labor in Father in Heavens kingdom laying the foundations of a mansion above for us as we continue here in His vinyard. I,m a true believer that we will be reunited once again. Your brother Joe
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kewlynx
Toyota & Classifieds Moderator
Reged: 10/06/02
Posts: 15756
Loc: Fairbanks, Alaska
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Javy,
My deepest condolences. That your Mother has given this world such fine men such as you and your brothers will speak forever to her legacy.
May peace find its way to the hearts of your family, and her lifelong companion, your Father.
***Offroader, my condolences to you as well. I still miss my Dad every time I'm out in the apiary.
Sometimes we dread turning that page in the Big Book o' Life, but turn it, we must.
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Democracy is two wolves and a lamb voting on what to have for dinner. Liberty is a well-armed lamb contesting the vote.
**ubi apis- ibi salus**
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Kevin C
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Reged: 05/20/00
Posts: 6033
Loc: No where in particular
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Sorry to hear about your Mom. Just lost my Dad Saturday.... It's never easy.
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Edited by Kevin C (05/31/12 09:57 PM)
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JAVYPRO
Body Damage is Cool
Reged: 02/04/01
Posts: 1832
Loc: Buford, GA USA
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To all of you THANKS and my heart goes to all of you who have also suffered the lost of a love one.
May God always give you comfort, my heart is with you all.
Javy
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88 red Montero with the Dakar Special Edition decals, 438,000 miles (As of 7/23/2012) some occational blue puffing but still strong and counting!!! I am going ppsshhh (turbo), Stay tuned =) ...
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